I like to do research to find the best formula to do the things I need to do. The very important job I have at the moment is to parent a toddler. After talking to numerous parents, googling the internet, reading books, combine with personal experience, I compile a list of things we parents must remember when we are parenting our child.
- We need to help boost our child’s self-esteem. Kids, especially young kids see themselves through their parents’ eyes. Our tone of voice, body language, and every expression are absorbed by our kids. our words and actions affect their self-esteem more than anything else. Choose words carefully and be compassionate, no belittling comments or comparing our child unfavorably with others.
- Catch them being good, make a point of finding something to praise every day.
- Be consistent with your discipline. The goal of discipline is to help our kids choose acceptable behaviors and learn self-control and be responsible. I usually do one warning, followed by consequences like a time out or loss of privileges. Don’t make the mistake I made initially, time out for throwing fit one day and ignoring the next day will not work.
- Model the traits you wish to see in your kids and treat them the way we wish others to treat us. Our kids learn a lot about how to act by watching us.
- Explain things to them. Kids want and deserve explanations as much as adults do. If we don’t take time to explain, kids will begin to wonder about our values and motives and whether they have any basis. Parents who reason with their kids allow them to understand and learn in a nonjudgmental way. If there is a problem, describe it, express your feelings, and invite your child to work on a solution with you. Kids who participate in decisions are more motivated to carry them out.
- Accept our their personalities now. If your kid is an introvert now, chances are he or she will be an introvert 5 or even 10 years from now. Our kids are given to us with their own innate personalities. Encourage to be more of their strengths, not focusing on their weaknesses.
- Don’t bribe. The best reward for a kids is time with the parents. We have to be clear about our own values. Our kids watch us closely. If you want your kids to be able to stand up for their values, you have to do the same. One of the most important things we do for our kids is to present them with a version of adult life that is appealing and worth striving for.
- Be authoritative, be in control but with a warm attitude.
- Model a healthy lifestyle and good habits, such as regular exercise and proper nutrition, for our kids
- Support spiritual or religious development and participate in spiritual or religious activities
- Take precautions to protect your child and maintain awareness of the child’s activities and friends.
If we can keep these in mind and practice them often, I believe we will be on our way to building a strong, lifelong relationship with our children. Happy parenting!